I am Ready to Settle Down (Part 1)

I can remember when I was ready to settle down and exit the world of dating drama. I did not want to get married, per se, but I wanted to be in a committed, loving, and faithful relationship. I did not want to deal with the lies, cheating, and being a "link" in a man's chain. I wanted to be the main girl and the only girl. By the way, if you have not read about Ruth, then you must do so to understand my message. It is a short book (in the Bible) with a powerful messsage. Long story short, Ruth was married to Naomi's son and he died. After Ruth's husband died, she made a decision based on love and loyalty to remain with her mother-in-law versus returning home to her family. In addition, Ruth had given up her idol gods when she married into the family and decided she will continue serving 'THE God'.

Here is where my first point comes in. When I was ready to settle down, I had to make a decision too. I had too many gods in my life that were distracting me. Little gods can be something you consistently do in an unhealthy manner whereby trying to get a positive result or feeling. Little gods leave you feeling guilty, ashamed, and hurt. Little gods can range from drinking and drugging, promiscuity, clubbing,sexting,over eating, manipulation,money,vanity,telling lies, etc. I know what mine were, but you have to recognize yours. Once I decided to focus on "THE God' consistently is when I casually met the man that would be my husband. Looking back, I now know that I had to be loyal to my God. I had to love Him and myself. I had to learn not to put any little gods before Him. It was a struggle to love myself; however I learned to love me and I am so glad I did. Once you start to really love yourself,those little gods will go away.

Now you might wonder what does this have to do with being ready to settle down. A lot! If you have found yourself tired of these crazy men and you are worn slap silly over the drama and mental stress, then this is for you. If you are yearning for "true love" that will not waiver and is kind and gentle, then this is for you. The real true love begins with the source-your Higher Power. He saturates your soul until you are filled with self-love. That's awesome! He has to do this first in order to cleanse and prepare you to be the perfect "gift" for the man you will settle down with. Now, when I do counseling I put my personal beliefs to the side to be ethical. So if you need assistance with self-love, then give me a call. We can work together. In the meantime, stay tuned for Part 2 of this message.

Have a sweet day,
Shaneka