You Need a Strong Foundation

…he is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid a foundation on the rock; and when a flood occurred, the torrent burst against that house and could not shake it, because it had been well built. Luke 6:47-49 (NASB)

In March I sent a text message to an associate that I had not spoken to in months. Little did I know this person’s phone number changed. I did not know this until my phone rang and the lady on the other end angrily asked, “Who is this? Who is this and why the hell are you texting my man?” I knew where this was going and I did not want to be a part of her road to insanity. I chuckled inside and politely told her, “My name is Shaneka. Ma’am I am sorry but I did not text your husband.” She immediately hung up the phone. Minutes after her call, she texted me saying, “Why did you text my husband? Do you know him?” I paused for a second and decided to call her to let her know that I did send a text message but it was not for her husband and apparently my person’s number had changed. I told her I was married and offered a little advice- “Stop snooping in your husband’s phone.” I told her to be still and connect with her intuition. “What is your spirit saying to you? Notice how it feels in your body when I say to be still and listen,” I said. She paused in silence for ten seconds and tearfully said, “Yea, you’re right…this has happened before…he’s cheated before. I’m so tired; I’m just sick and tired.” I told her I was a Therapist and we talked for a while. She needed someone to listen to her without giving her “girlfriend” advice. She needed her feelings to be validated and she needed to feel like she mattered.

The bottom line is all relationships must have a solid foundation. I have four principles for a healthy relationship: trust, respect, support, and patience. You cannot have one or two; you must have all four. What is missing in your relationship? What do you need to do to establish these principles? To whom much is given, much is required. You have to focus on your actions and allow your partner to focus on theirs. Do you trust your partner? Do you respect your partner? Do you support your partner one hundred percent? Are you patient with your partner? Did your relationship begin with a solid foundation or did you have a rough start? The partner who has been cheated on will be hurt badly; the partner who has cheated will more than likely feel guilty and ashamed. Relationships with infidelity can be saved if both partners are willing to work together, be open and honest, and commit to love each other again. The demolition has been done. You have to decide to do the reconstruction on your foundation and rebuild your relationship stronger, solid.

Wow, this is a wonderful opportunity for you to change the direction of your journey! Allow me to walk with you, let’s get started. Click here to schedule an appointment.

Have a sweet day,

Shaneka